Well recently many of my friends gave NEET exam including me too , most of them could not crack it. Some decided to give a second/third chance while some changed their field and decided not to stop at all.
This week , I got calls from my 2 close friends , I was shocked to listen what they were saying , always fun making and careless guys were actually feeling "DEPRESSED".
Depression , frustration , tension , fear , etc. are not same. We should not get confused between these terms.
Frustration
A condition in which a person is mentally confused which leads to anger in his personality.
The person becomes angry and overreactive.
Reasons - Lack of interest in what you are doing , Forced to do something unwanted , Not getting something that you wished deeply , etc.
Tension
A condition in which a person can't feel relaxed and calm , remain worried and nervous.
Reasons - Fear about doing something , Lack of trust on partners in life/business/work place , worried about future/upcoming problems/possible problems in future.
Fear
Okay , I don't believe this particular term as a "condition" , I rather would like to call it as a "situation".
It is a situation in which a person's hormonal system (mainly catecholamines except dopamine) is overreactive. When the person faces a particular situation or thinks about a particular situation , his/her hormonal system gives so-called "negative goose Bumps". It can be controlled easily by just facing situations regularly.
Now let's come to the main topic, Depression.
1) What is depression?
It is a condition in which person's mood and interests in different things are marked down significantly. The Person feels left-away always and feels deminished.
2) How is the feeling of depression?
According to different experiences , a person usually feels highly tensed about his/her future. Every other person for him seems to like a more successfull and more happy one.
He/she usually feels highly deminished , a feeling of lack of confidence usually enters the head and remains solidly attached to brain.
Every single task in front of him/her seems to be a far difficult one ( even if it isn't ). The Person usually starts focusing on less important parts of life ( eg., social media platforms) for help. He starts ignoring the important parts in life just because he is underconfident about them.He/she likes to talk with someone who cares or who respects this suituation and tries to help.
3) How can we identify depressed people? What are the signs of depression in people ?
Well there are different signs for different minds.
A lot of people happened to show the following signs
1) Tiredness
2) Lack of interest in work
3) Always worried
4) Less impactful way of talking
5) Crying
6) Angry and high tempered mind (mood swings).
7) Help seeking talks ( dependance )
8) Searching motivational quotes ( it may be normal for some people actually , so it's not an absolute sign )
9) Hopelessness , guilt.
10) Insomnia
11) Lack of concentration and pleasure.
12) Feeling worthless
13) poor memory ,creative thoughts& decision making skills.
In some extreme cases , people try to commit suicides even , which is totally inappropriate !
4) How to overcome Depression?
You must understand that our "Feelings" are variable , some times we feel happy , some times sad , some times we feel angry and some times like a saint !
So my first advice for people undergoing depression is DON'T BE DEPENDANT ON YOUR FEELINGS.
You must understand that the way you are thinking today may not be the same for tomorrow, Right ? So why waste our important time in life in just doing nothing ?
There are many people/students/business men who are facing extreme problems in their life like lack of money , no family support , lack of true friends , constant betray by partners , lack of proper sources for studies/business. But do they quit ? NO
Saw this image? Ofcourse these are masters of cricket ! Do you know one interesting thing about them? Sourav Ganguly is a commerce graduate who has a PhD & Sachin Tendulkar is a 10th pass student !!!
What difference do you calculate in their educations? Alot !
What difference do you calculate in their carrier success? One is Dada of indian
cricket team and the current BCCI president while other is God of cricket for entire world !
Your current situation doesn't matter to your future success. The only thing you have to understand is that dada was never afraid while choosing Cricket as his carrier instead of commerce and Sachin was never afraid whilst playing cricket all day ignoring school.
They never had to feel "DEPRESSION" in their lives because they never even cared about that !
Get up from the bed and start shaping your life with hardwork instead of just laying with the tears of past failures. You have your own brain , use it , never underistimate it , it can even take you from hell to heaven within minutes if you allow it to cut the chains of depression that you yourself have bound to it.
Clear your mind ,never ever care for your past, prepare in the present and dream for your future!
Sometimes you have to embrace the devil inside you, why? Because he tells you not to worry about the rest of world and do what you truly Desire !! Do not let yourself become fooled by your own thoughts, even when you know that they are true , because sometimes destiny can even change the truths of your life.
Failed in exams? Prepare for new ones!
Failed in business ?? Start a new one!
Failed in love ??? Find a new one!
Failed in getting job ???? Time for start-ups!
Because there is no question like "failed in life" in your life, because if you follow your desires, keep faith in your brain, polish it with the hardwork with a touch of smart work, destiny will have to take you to a completely new path where you will only get succeed always !!
👍well written
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