Handling Jealousy

She was talking with a guy, laughing and laughing. He saw her from afar and got stressed. He observed them every day, and it was the same, even though she was just being friendly with everyone, he thought quite differently about those two. He went angry, stressed, upset, and confused at the same time. For a normal person, the situation was fine and normal, but for him, it was the hardest one. He couldn't explain to her what he was feeling at the same time he wanted her to understand what he was feeling. He started getting a feeling that we call jealousy

In the above situation, we may think it is very common in teenagers and even in young bloods. What we need to understand is this feeling of jealousy is a kind that can't be explained to the person of whom we are jealous. Hence it becomes much more difficult to feel. 

Let us understand what jealousy is, is it good or just menacing? Is it between couples only or between anyone who has an emotional attachment to someone? Is it curable?

What is Jealousy?

Jealousy is a very complex type of emotional unbalance. It is a feeling in which you are feeling threatened, hurt, raged and self doubts at the same time. We are hurt deeply because of either success or the change of interests of others. 

Jealousy is an emotion not only for adults but for kids and animals to get jealous. 

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Why do we try to hurt that person?

We normally try to hurt the person we are jealous of. Why? Let's take an example.

A train contains 3 passengers, hurt-confusion-fear.

The train tries to go straight without any problem. When the train gets another passenger called the Rage, then the train starts going out of control and gets collided.

This train is our mind, when we are jealous, we feel threatened, hurt, and confused. Still, we try to manage our emotions by giving time to the situation and waiting for it to get stable. But when we feel that it is not working for that person, we get the feeling of rage we start hurting that person, either by words or by changing our behavior. 

Is it normal to get jealous or is it just a menace?

Tell me, when you see a baby, who gets jealous when his mother grabs another child and starts playing with him, that baby starts crying and starts fighting with his mother. 

Would you call this baby a menace? Would you consider him abnormal? Would you break your relations with him?

No! Just because someone is jealous does not mean he wants you to be suppressed than him. No, it's like a feeling in which you feel like you tried your best and still the other person got better results. You are just rageful about the situation that you are going through.

If the jealousy is for love then what more do you want? Someone is jealous because he thinks you started to love someone else or you are sharing some love with someone else, you should feel lucky that someone loves you this much that he can't let you share your love for him with anybody else. But yes, you should never try to hurt someone else just because you are jealous of him or her. There are some differences between you and a newborn baby.

Discussion is when jealousy for love or a situation turns wild or extreme and some toxic or harmful situations are arising just because of the jealousy. That is alarming and should be considered to be controlled immediately.

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Is it curable?

Obviously Yes!

The best cure is to talk. Don't hesitate to talk. Discuss your problems with that person, what you are feeling, why you are feeling it, etc.

Try to be calm and reasonable in your every act. 

Make the fourth passenger leave the train so that you will have some balance for thinking.

Don't worry it won't be too late so no need to hurry and hurt him or her because you may feel like hurting him or she will heal the problem rapidly but in actual case, it will make it worse only.

Stay calm and discuss with someone who you feel comfortable with. 

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