Some Words for Overthinkers

Thinking is the only thing that separates us from animals. The gift of thinking is what made us come so far now. Thinking about a fantastic memory to indulge in nostalgia.

Thinking is what reminds us of our childhood fun, gossiping about different people, reminds our favourite episodes of our favourite cartoons. Thinking is just a perfect gift for humankind, isn't it?

Every coin has two sides. Every day has its own night and every rain has its own flood. Sometimes the worship becomes a curse and every moment of what we think becomes hard and smiles turn into tears, and our own forehead furrows. Here comes the origin of what society calls Overthinking.

Everyone refers that overthinking is just thinking too much about anything, so every passer suggests to stop thinking simply. Is it that simple?

No! My own definition of overthinking is just thinking about every negative aspect of any person or situation, let it be for a long time to for just a moment also. 

Some Questions for you to imagine

Suppose you have a friend of yours whom you consider the best person in your life. He is always there for you in any situation. He always gives you hand when you're deep down. But, he has a habit of doing something which you hate the most. Now you start thinking about that particular habit and getting angry with him. You think about other people who do not have that habit and start getting jealous and angrier with him. Now a situation is made in which you start getting negative vibes from that friend. 

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Isn't it the most common problem that our society, mainly college buddies facing these days?

Suppose you have a girlfriend or boyfriend who has 80% of the qualities which you admire the most in him or her but lacks 20% of what he/she has. You discussed these with her/him. Now she tried her best to change them for you. Still, 10% is there only.  Yet you started hating her for that 10%, You can imagine your best friend also.  

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Now let us imagine a situation. You are working hard for something, you gave days and nights for that thing. You waited for the results but the results were not up to the mark which you decided to be. You got something else which is good too. But instead of walking on a straight road now, you have to go through mountains. You feel stressed and lost. You feel failed in life. You feel jealous watching your friends/relatives achieve that mark. 

Have Some thoughts

In all the above situations there were bad endings. But isn't it great that your friend will always hold your hand when you're slipping! Isn't it great that your partner/BFF is even ready to change him or her just because you wanted to! Isn't it great that everyone will see the road but you can see the sky and mountains too! A sailor is made in the hurricanes and not in the lakes. Appreciate the facts that you have such friends, best friends, life partners, and opportunities which you can enjoy the most in your life. Isn't it the best feeling to call the person when you are down and just tell him or her to come to meet and he actually comes within minutes just to see you! 

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Some friends are not made, they are accepted from the god. Some situations are not faced, they are enjoyed. Some people are not asked, they are told to do something, Appreciate the people you got and the situations you fight. God has made some people in pairs. You are probably the one in them and your partner/BFF is the other one. Don't break the pairs which are heaven made just focusing on the manufacturing defects. Defects are there to sprinkle some fun in relations. A relationship without some problems is good for doing business but not for life. 

Appreciate the problems you're facing because they are the building blocks of your life. Don't focus only on the weight that is getting added to your building but enjoy the heights you're reaching.

Think about the negatives, but take them for granted. Every pinch of negative comes with a tonne of positive also, but we prefer to focus on negatives only. It is not your problem. IT'S HOW WE ARE MADE. Humans are made to face problems and evolve in this chain of natural selection. Hence we have a habit of thinking about negatives only but now that we have passed a long line of evolution, we should understand to focus on positives also. Thinking is good.

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So don't worry, just stay calm and gift something special, something small whenever you want his presence in your life. My personal suggestion for all the overthinkers and depressed ones is always the same and that is 

Write

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Write every negative thought you have in your mind. Write the reason behind it. 

Write about the good memory you had with that person or situation.

Write why you think it was a good memory.

Write how that person or situation has impacted your life in a good way.

In the end, write 2 lines for that person with all your heart.

Feel the emotions then.

:)